© 2014 Stearns County Domestic Violence Partnership

Having a plan in place for times of violence could save your life. Whether you are still in a violent relationship or you have left your abuser, it is important to think about safety. If you are thinking about leaving your abuser, remember that most domestic homicides occur when the victim is trying to leave!! If possible, always talk to law enforcement, legal aid, or a victim advocate about safety before doing anything drastic.

If you aren’t sure who to talk to, law enforcement can refer you to services that can help create a safety plan for you.

If you have left your relationship:

Depending on your circumstances, there are many things to consider once you have left your abuser. For help staying safe, seek help from the resources available to you. A law enforcement officer or domestic violence advocate can help decide what’s right for you and your unique situation.

Although each situation is different, here are some basic tips for safety once you have left.

Safety Planning– the smart way.

Never leave in the heat of the moment. Never tell your abuser that you plan to leave. Always consult with law enforcement, a domestic violence advocate, or social services if you can.

Safety Tips For Every Stage

If  you are still in the relationship:

It is also wise to think through a safety plan for yourself and your family. Visit our Personal Safety Plan page to prepare yourself.

If you are considering leaving the relationship:

Plan ahead and have a safe place in mind to escape to. If you go to a friend or family member’s house, make sure it is someone you trust who is preferably not well acquainted with the abuser.

Know when you plan to leave, and where you will go. Request police stand-by if you believe your partner might figure out your plan to leave. Save up emergency money if you can. Hide an extra set of car keys, and pack extra cloths for you and your children. Make sure that you know the phone numbers of friends, relatives, doctors, schools, and other services. Pack a bag with the following items and hide it at the location you plan to escape to: